Warning Signs
It’s not always easy to see when someone is struggling. Many people experiencing suicidal thoughts may keep their feelings hidden but there are some signs that may indicate a person needs support. Here are some things to watch for:
- Withdrawing from friends, family, or usual activities
- Giving away meaningful belongings or talking about saying goodbye
- Searching for ways to harm themselves (eg: looking for weapons or medication)
- Noticeable changes in sleep patterns; sleeping much more or much less
- Changes in appetite or weight; eating too much or too little
- Using drugs or alcohol more frequently
- Expressing intense anger, anxiety, or agitation
- Taking unusual risks or acting recklessly
- Showing extreme mood changes or emotional distress
- Talking about death or suicide, even in a casual or joking way
If you notice these signs in someone, trust your instincts and reach out. It’s okay to ask if they’re thinking about suicide — it can open the door to connection and lifesaving support. Help is available, and recovery is possible.
Supporting Someone Who May Be Considering Suicide
If you’re concerned that someone you care about may be thinking about suicide, starting a compassionate conversation can make a real difference. It’s okay — and important — to ask questions in a way that feels supportive and non-judgmental.
You can begin by gently asking how they’re feeling. If you’re worried, it’s also okay to ask directly: “Are you thinking about suicide?” Asking this question does not increase risk, it creates space for honesty and connection. During your conversation, try to:
- Stay calm and speak with warmth and care
- Let them know their feelings are valid, even if they’re hard to hear
- Offer your support without trying to “fix” everything
- Reassure them that help is available, and healing is possible
Avoid minimizing what they’re going through or suggesting they “just think positively.” Instead, listen openly, and let them know they’re not alone. You can gently encourage them to talk to a mental health professional or crisis counselor. If they’re open to support, you might offer to help them find a counselor or support line, sit with them while they make a call, and/or accompany them to an appointment.
It can be overwhelming when someone you love is struggling but reaching out with care and concern can be a powerful first step. Your presence and willingness to talk might be exactly what they need in that moment. If you’re unsure how to help, you don’t have to do it alone.
Support is available at the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Call or text 988 to reach trained counselors, 24/7, anywhere in the U.S.
